Who Are Your True Friends?

Our entire lives are made out of many snapshots, emotions and interactions that we have with other human beings. Since we change schools when being young, and careers as we grow the number of these becomes astounding. No longer do most of us live in the same small town our entire life, or have the same neighbors. This makes it hard for a lot of us to make true friends, as we don't have that much time to learn about them or chose wisely.




As soon as you begin a new job for example, it is a good idea to make the right friends. This will later play a huge part on your ability to move up as your bosses are judging you every step of the way. Not only that but will those people ever be there for you when you need them? Will you talk to them again after you leave work? Will there be anything else to talk about? Most of our times are spent complaining, and I myself don't like doing that and so a lot of times have a hard time finding people like me. The surest way to get a good conversation going at a social event is say something along the lines of, "Don't bosses just suck?" You are sure to have many people nod along, and want to chime in some of their own wisdom.



When you are successful it is hard to see what the people approaching you are really there for. Many are just living the moment and hoping that being around you can get them something. That is fine, since relationships should be beneficial, but it has to go both ways. The more I think about it, the harder it is for me to think about true friendship. I have made a few along the way, but for someone that has moved around a lot it has been a challenge. Whenever I speak to friends about it, I usually hear that they made most of their best friendships during their early days and still keep in touch. Since I was thrown around from school to school I didn't really get much of that, and the people that I did hang out with didn't have much in common with after high school.



Having good friends is important, as we are social creatures and when you have a moment try to write down the best ones you have. Really do think about it, and I would be amazed if you can think of more than five. I'd rather not count family in this exercise, but you can if they are your only friends. Cherish that list, and try to reach out to them every once in a while to cultivate those relationships as they also need water to grow. True friends are very important, and this will not become obvious until a moment where you can't find yourself with any.